This could be the beginning of something wonderful. You really care about him. You want to be part of his life. But a few things he’s said bother you. He’s got some complicated issues in his life… And he doesn’t want you to become involved. You have a few complicated issues in your own life… And you’re not sure how much he wants to know about them. Should you sit down with him and have a serious talk? Or should you let it go and have faith it will all work out in the end? Surely, if you love each other enough, you’ll be able to make it work no matter what… right? No one wants to look too closely at potential problems when they’re falling for someone. They don’t want to derail the relationship before it’s even begun. But some couples are trying a different tactic. They’re laying their differences out on the table from the beginning. And I’ve got 5 questions you can use to start that conversation in a safe and playful way. Perfection Isn’t Persuasive When you meet someone new, you don’
For Victoria, getting an “I love you” from her partner was like getting blood from a turnip. She could count on one hand the number of times he’d said it. She said it to him all the time. She was always thinking of little ways to show she cared. Yet he just assumed she knew how he felt. “I wouldn’t be with you if I didn’t love you,” he told her once. It seemed to her that he took her for granted. She didn’t want to be in a relationship where she never knew how he felt. She wanted romance and reassurances. She wanted long conversations. Instead it felt like their relationship centered on practical things. What needed doing, what was happening, what the weather would be tomorrow. She didn’t need to know the weather. She needed to know he loved her. The Feelings Problem Feelings are a problem for 9 out of 10 couples. (Totally made up statistic, but I’ll bet it’s close.) In a nutshell, the Feelings Problem is this: She expresses her feelings… and he doesn’t. He sometimes wishes she would