How often have you found yourself saying… “He’s such a jerk”? You’re sitting with your girlfriends, and you just can’t hold it in any longer. You’ve got to tell them what he’s done this time. You love the guy, but honestly? He does your head in. Surely there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re just calling a spade a spade! Besides, when women get together, they tell it like it is. If their man is failing them, the sisters are gonna hear about it. But thinking of your guy as a jerk—even in the privacy of your own mind—puts you on the slippery slope to couple trouble. It turns out that calling him anything unflattering will bite you later down the line. Not because you didn’t feel it was true at the time… But because the labels you slap on him have power. They create the very behaviors you’re condemning. You’re not describing him so much as putting a curse on him, ensuring you’ll see more bad behavior. How can a simple little word have that kind of power? ...