How often have you found yourself saying… “He’s  such  a jerk”? You’re sitting with your girlfriends, and you just can’t hold it in any longer. You’ve got to tell them what he’s done this time. You love the guy, but honestly? He does your head in. Surely there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re just calling a spade a spade! Besides, when women get together, they tell it like it is. If their man is failing them, the sisters are gonna hear about it. But thinking of your guy as a jerk—even in the privacy of your own mind—puts you on the slippery slope to couple trouble. It turns out that calling him  anything  unflattering will bite you later down the line. Not because you didn’t feel it was true at the time… But because the labels you slap on him have power. They create the very behaviors you’re condemning. You’re not describing him so much as putting a curse on him, ensuring you’ll see more bad behavior. How can a simple little word have that kind of power?  (Especially when it’s not e

It’s so tempting to believe you can fix him. You can see the things about his personality that are holding him back. If only he’d let you, you could help him become a great success in life. You’d help him! You’d back him! But he won’t listen to you. He won’t even try to change. Physicist Albert Einstein put his finger on the problem when he said, only half-jokingly: “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” One of the more difficult parts of dating is not figuring out whether you love him. It’s figuring out whether you can live with his flaws. He’s fantastic in so many ways, but can you really put up with his video game collection taking over the house or his lax personal grooming standards …  forever ? For many women, a man is a fixer-upper project. They believe men have to be taught how to be good partners. Men have to be taught the importance of obeying a woman’s rules. She is the ul

You knew you said the wrong thing the instant it came out of your mouth. You could see it in his face. The instant coldness. The refusal to look at you. The blunt way he said he had to leave. You gave him a few days to let it blow over, then you messaged him with a bright and breezy, “What’s up? Haven’t heard from you. Hope you’re good.” He never wrote back. You talked to your best friend about it. She told you it was nothing. Yeah, sure, maybe you shouldn’t have said it, but he’s overreacting. He’s the one at fault. If he had a problem with it, he should have talked to you, not gone silent. So immature… Now you feel better, but you also feel mad at him. Why is he punishing you over something so little? That self-righteous satisfaction helps you put the incident behind you for a few days. You get on with your life. You decide you’re going to wait until he contacts you. You did your part. But then Friday rolls around, with the weekend stretching long and empty before you. You miss him.

How many of us spend most of our lives lost in the thoughts dancing around in our heads? The Heart as an Emotional and Intuitive Intelligence As a general rule, we are not encouraged to lead from our hearts. Our hearts are seen as more fallible, emotional, and likely to lead us somewhere irrational, but this is a false assumption. Most people don’t know that our hearts are in fact much more emotionally intelligent than they think. The heart holds short and long-term memories. It is in fact the emotional center of our souls with energy that extends out from us by six feet, like a bubble or an aura/ electromagnetic energy field. We can trace this intuitive intelligence as far back to when we were babies in the womb. Our hearts are developed before the brain at five weeks of growth, and a mother’s brain waves can sync with her baby’s heartbeat. Our inner voice or higher self is our intuitive, energetic heart. Increasing research is emerging about how important our hearts are to our spirit

Everyone knows that dating sucks. Because: You can’t just BE yourself. You’ve got to SELL yourself. Selling yourself is HARD when you compare yourself to all the other women out there. You end up feeling WORSE about yourself than if you’d never put yourself out there in the first place. Your self-esteem rises and falls based on how much interest you’re getting, even though you know you should NEVER give men power over you. You waste SO MUCH TIME on those online dating sites, time that you could be spending on things you actually enjoy. And the result? You get all these messages from creeps, you never hear from the guys you want to hear from, and the occasional nice guy turns out to be a dud. It’s this roller coaster of  getting excited, being disappointed, getting excited again, being disappointed , until finally you just can’t take it anymore. Am I right? So dating sucks, but what can we do to change it? You can use THIS tool that makes finding love fun. This mindset shift will help y

  Men have a problem. They have a hard time knowing if a woman is   interested   in them… Or just being nice. And as you probably know from first hand experience, women have the same problem.  It’s hard to tell if that guy wants to talk to you because he’s interested in what you’re saying… Or because he’s hoping you like him. We’re not very good at reading ambiguous signals. It’s obvious when someone is clearly hitting on you, and it’s obvious when they’re just being polite, but there’s a lot of ground in the middle that could be interpreted either way. Men tend to err in the opposite direction to women. Men are more likely to perceive a woman as  interested  when she’s just being friendly… While women are more likely to perceive a man as being  friendly  when he’s actually interested. Why? Evolutionary psychologists believe it’s because of the way we’ve socially evolved. They argue that men have evolved to seek multiple partners to spread their genes, so men tend to see sexual opportu