Dan Ariely doesn’t like online dating. The term is all wrong, he says. There’s no dating happening online. Instead, he jokes, they should call it “online searching and blurb writing.”[1] Not that Dan has searched for love online himself. He’s happily married with two kids. But he’s studied online dating, and he finds it shameful that people waste so much time and energy on something with so little return. He’s got some ideas to make online dating better—more enjoyable, more productive, and more likely to lead to love. But until someone comes up with an online dating app designed around his research, you’ll just have to use his hacks yourself. Online Dating: Designed for Robots? As a behavioral economist, Dan examines systems to see if they genuinely help people achieve their goals. He believes that we should design systems around what people naturally do, rather than what they  should  do in an ideal world. Any system designed for love should take into account the fact that at...

An article from Amy Waterman [1] Back in my twenties, I was with a guy who wanted to get married, and I didn’t know what to do. So I went around asking people  how they knew that their spouse was the one. The advice they gave me was this: You just KNOW.” That’s it?  I thought.  You just KNOW? Yep. I didn’t have that kind of unshakable confidence. I couldn’t see us 10 years in the future. It would take me DECADES before I understood that this “advice” wasn’t great advice after all. “Knowing” that you’re meant to be with someone can be a product of wishful thinking as easily as it can be a nudge from destiny. If you are wondering whether you’re soulmates, but you’re not sure… There are 5 ways to test your soul connection. Before You Ask If He’s Your Soulmate, Do THIS When you’re just starting a new relationship, it ALWAYS feels like you’re soulmates. Those are Nature’s love chemicals coursing through your veins, and they’re designed for the SOLE PURPOSE of making sure the h...

It seems like attracting men is so much WORK. There are all of these things you have to do. You have to wear makeup and do your hair and work out and put on sexy clothes and know what to say and not be too available… Seriously, is ANY guy worth all that?? Especially when you can attract men just by being YOU… That wonderful, warm, happy woman that your friends know and love. Just by being a woman, you already have all the skills you need to attract great guys. No hustle required! Keep reading to discover 4 feminine signals that men can’t help but respond to. Feminine Signal #1. Friendliness Ever been nice to a guy and then realized, to your horror, that he thought you were hitting on him? Yep, been there! In fact, for a BIG stretch in my life, I became really cautious around men I didn’t know. I needed to make sure he wouldn’t get the wrong idea before I could feel free to be my usual warm friendly self. Study after study shows that this experience is universal: Men tend to interpret a...

    An Article from Amy Waterman[1] All you need is love. As long as you love each other, you can make it through anything. Divorce means giving up, and you’re  not  the quitting type.” With words of wisdom like these, it’s no wonder so many marriages fail. We think it comes down to self-discipline. Like exercise and a good diet, the prescription for a healthy marriage is obvious. Communicate. Have sex. Say, “I love you.” But just as anyone who’s dieted and exercised her way to an even larger spare tire has found, “common wisdom” can be quite frankly worthless. Staying married isn’t just about commitment. It takes more than love and an iron will. A constellation of factors come into play—some of which you have control over, many of which you don’t. Couples who stay married aren’t BETTER than those who divorce, any more than slim folks are somehow “better” than curvier ones. Sometimes, marriages fail because they were set up to fail. And, in failing, they did  ex...

You’ve been working hard for months. Once this project is done, you’ll get your weekends back. But for now you just have to put up with the disaster your house has become and the friends who’ve stopped calling because you haven’t had time for them. You’re so tired you can’t even enjoy a celebratory glass of wine with your co-workers when the project is finally over. So you go home and fall into bed. The next morning you wake up… With a raging cold. Has that ever happened to you? I have a friend who swears she’ll never take time off, because the first thing she does when she goes on vacation is get sick. WHY does that happen? Well, it doesn’t happen because you’ve finally taken a moment to relax. It happens because you’ve been running on empty for far too long. When you work too hard, overdose on stress, and fuel yourself with energy bars and caffeine, your body is going to try to keep up with you. But you’re not making life easy for it. So what’s the answer? You can’t quit your job. Yo...