Article from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] "A friend of mine took up yoga in her 40s. She wanted to improve her flexibility. She was starting to feel stiff in the mornings. But she stuck with it after she discovered how it made her feel on a psychological level. She said it was like “spending quality time with my body.” Instead of thinking critical thoughts about how she looked—which she did more often than she liked—she learned to prioritize how her body  felt . She started to notice new sensations, like how her breath felt in her chest. It gave her a sense of peace and a contentment with her body she’d never had before. I frequently speak with my clients about the power of mindfulness in relationships. But the way she put it just struck my funny bone. “James, men have popped out of everywhere!” She saw my quizzical face and pointed to her backside with a cheeky grin. “Is it the yoga pants??” I wasn’t about to comment on her body… But I  did  have an idea or t...

You’ve arranged to meet several men you connected with online. The first guy talks about his life in a way that’s extremely impressive. He’s confident, and you like that. He talks about places he could take you. He talks about the interests you have in common. He shares his philosophy on what it means to be a good boyfriend. It’s all very persuasive. Then you go out with your second date. He sits back, relaxes, and chats with you about life.  He admits up front that he isn’t perfect. He acknowledges where you’re different. He jokes that you’d never make a couple because you wouldn’t be able to handle his motorcross obsession. It’s so relaxed and so fun that you enjoy yourself immensely. Who do you find yourself thinking about a week later? The first guy or the second guy? We Say No to People Who Want Us to Say Yes It doesn’t make any sense. If Person A says to you,  “We’d be good together…” And Person B says to you,  “I’m not sure we’re right for each other…” Then surely ...

Advise from love experts Amy Waterman[1] " Thank you so much to all of you who wrote in with your questions! They illustrate the truth that love brings us  so much  joy and fulfillment… But it also brings us so much pain. Men don’t always act the way we want them to. (In fact, they USUALLY don’t act the way we want them to!) We spend so much time and energy  thinking  about their behavior and  worrying  about their behavior and  wondering  how we can change their behavior… And I want to talk today about a way to make all that go away. If you’re SICK and TIRED of feeling powerless in love, then this will help you own your power, so that you never end up stuck waiting on a man again. This is Our Mission Here at Your Brilliance we do things differently. Our #1 goal is to help you shine. When you feel good in yourself, and you know you are lovable, and you treat yourself really well… You radiate irresistible vibes that attract to you so many goo...

This is not how it was supposed to turn out. You have spent so much time searching for a man who makes you feel like this. You thought you might never find him. And here he shows up in your life, bringing joy and laughter and fun and desire… Making you feel wanted… Making you feel hope… Only to tell you that all he can offer you is going to bed with you and occasional companionship. If you want to be with him, any thought of a relationship has to be off the table. Either you agree to his conditions… Or you never see him again. Which would you choose? The Impossible Dilemma We live in a world where casual intimacy has become the default setting… Not just for young people navigating hookup culture, or singles swiping to find love on dating apps, but for everyone else, too! Whereas single women in the past expected their suitors to have marriage in mind, today’s dating culture is very much marriage-optional. Which makes it easy for men to lead with the assertion that they’re not looking f...