Madison didn’t want to fight. Her relationship felt suffocating, but she didn’t know how to tell her boyfriend that she didn’t want to spend every weekend with him. She felt she owed it to him to arrange her schedule around him, but she’d begun to resent it. She’d missed several activities with her girlfriends, because her boyfriend wanted to do something that night. She kept telling herself that it was okay, she loved him, she was part of a couple now, and this is just what couple do. But the words were building up inside, and she didn’t know how long she could keep them down. Jack understood the feeling. When he argued with his wife, he felt terrible. He’d rather keep his mouth shut and say nothing rather than risk making her mad. When his wife brought up issues in their marriage, he listened. He knew that listening would make her calm down eventually. But he kept his thoughts to himself. All those unsaid words had begun to put a wall between them. Both Madison and Jack were stuck in

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