A story told by Bob Grant (relationship coach)
10 years earlier, she sat at a fancy restaurant with beautiful music playing when Tyler got up out of his chair, bent down on one knee and ask her to be his forever. Stunned and speechless, she started to cry with tears of joy as she said yes to his proposal. When they were married she knew she’d picked the right man for her and wanted to make sure she was the wife he had always wanted. So she did what she thought a man would like. She almost always agreed to his sexual advances while being both positive and upbeat, most of the time.In fact Tyler often bragged to other couples that she was one of the most giving women he had ever known.
All Seemed Well Until One Fateful Morning...
She was making her morning coffee when Tyler came into the kitchen and sat down at the table…and waited.
At first, she thought nothing of this until she turned around and saw him staring off into space.
“Anything wrong?” she innocently asked.
For a moment he didn’t say anything, until he took a deep breath and uttered the words that punched her in the stomach:
"I’m sorry, but I think we should separate.”
At that moment she found it suddenly hard to breath as she forced the words to come out, “but...but..why?”
“I’m sorry,” he said, “but I just don’t think I’m in love with you anymore.” The words cut her like a knife as a sense of both fear and numbness engulfed her.Desperately she wanted to talk with him yet he said he had to leave and that they would discuss it later, but later never came that day.
Tyler never offered her a reason except to say that something was missing and he couldn’t stay with her any longer. In the coming days her mind raced from thoughts of fear to anger and then back to fear as the questions kept racing through her mind...
Was he having an affair?
What had she done wrong that this was happening to her?
If she could just understand, then she could fix it.
But the understanding she wanted never came as she went from begging him to stay to accepting the cold reality that he would never return.
After 3 months she felt that she was going to drown in grief if she didn’t talk with someone so a friend referred her to me.
After a few minutes sitting across from me she paused, looked me in the eye and ask, “Bob, who’s going to want a 41 year old divorced woman with 3 small children?” After losing the man who had promised to love her forever, I understood her doubts and fears.
Fast Forward 8 Months and You Wouldn’t Recognize This Same Woman
One afternoon she went to see her attorney and entered the elevator to his 14th floor office. When she got in she pushed the button for her floor and noticed a man who was busy talking to someone on his cellphone. As the elevator began it’s ascent, he stopped his call and glanced at her, then looked away.
She felt a nervous twinge then not a moment later she was shocked when he said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t normally do this. I don’t know if I’ll ever see you again so I wanted to ask you if I could call you sometime.” As the elevator came to her floor she just knew the look of complete shock was draped all over her face, but somehow she managed to say, “Oh, thank you but I’m afraid I’ve got to go.”
She tried to dismiss her experience as something random, until 2 weeks later at a friend’s dinner party. She had reluctantly agreed to go and didn’t feel especially social, yet that evening 2 men were captivated by her every word. The attention was almost overwhelming for her as each ask her when they would see her again. No longer was she broken and despondent, and in the coming weeks she had men calling her constantly and begging her to spend time with her. The doubts that haunted her just a few months ago now seemed almost silly.
So what happened that made this 41 year old single mother of 3 go from being abandoned to suddenly sought after by over a dozen men?
Everything began to change for her once she learned this secret – the hard way:
What men tell you they want and what they actually want are often entirely two different things.
As a Woman it is Critical That You Understand a Man’s Emotional Needs More Than He Does or Else He’ll Pull You into What I Call the “Giving Pit.”
This is the unconscious and destructive urge within a man that is only happy when you’re doing something to please him. It is as dangerous as a Vampire that drains the very life out of a helpless young woman. And here’s the big trap. He will EVEN say this is what he wants. But don’t listen and don’t give in!
You must never fall into this pit.
You know, where you give into what he wants because you think it will make him happy. That it will keep him devoted to you.
That it will make him love you.
But here’s what’s tragic about this, as logical as that sounds, giving too much to a man doesn’t make him love you, it will make him despise you. Even though that’s often exactly what a man tells you he wants!
This is why I’m going to share with you something that is counter intuitive to everything even men tell you they want in a woman.
Because if you let him keep pulling you down that path to the “Giving Pit” you’re actually increasing the chance that he might leave you.
You see, this path is based on 3 common , but deadly myths that I need to expose right now:
Myth 1
You Must Be Accommodating So that He’ll Think Your Easy Going and Fun…
But that doesn’t work because it actually trains him to think you’re willing to do whatever he wants. And what makes this so bad is that he’ll just assume all you care about is his needs, his happiness with nothing left for you.
Kind of like you’re his mother... doting on him... caring only about his needs... with your sole purpose focused on making sure he’s happy.
Myth 2
You’ve Been Told to Never Get Angry with a Man Because it’s Such a Turn Off….
But the truth is that never getting angry with a man actually makes him get bored with you. The reason is this: Men live by this motto – “If you can’t handle me when I’m rude or disrespectful, then you’re too weak for me to ever trust you when I’m scared.”
Myth 3
And the Worst Thing You’ve Been Told: The More You Give to a Man the Deeper He’ll Love You.I’m sorry to tell you but doing that will only lead to my deepest fear for you…that he’ll take you for granted by:
Her looks are never described as stunning or breath taking like Helen of Troy, but what she possessed was an ability to charm men. She had a quality that was so powerful, that men were willing to go to war for her, if that’s what she desired.
That is the power of “The Campfire Effect”
This effect makes a man not only notice you, but feel an irresistible desire to be close to you.
Discover this proven 5 step process that has helped hundreds of Bob Grant's private clients go from tired and frustrated with men to having the man they’ve always wanted treat them with such passion and devotion that many tell me personally that it’s “exhilarating.”
10 years earlier, she sat at a fancy restaurant with beautiful music playing when Tyler got up out of his chair, bent down on one knee and ask her to be his forever. Stunned and speechless, she started to cry with tears of joy as she said yes to his proposal. When they were married she knew she’d picked the right man for her and wanted to make sure she was the wife he had always wanted. So she did what she thought a man would like. She almost always agreed to his sexual advances while being both positive and upbeat, most of the time.In fact Tyler often bragged to other couples that she was one of the most giving women he had ever known.
She was making her morning coffee when Tyler came into the kitchen and sat down at the table…and waited.
At first, she thought nothing of this until she turned around and saw him staring off into space.
“Anything wrong?” she innocently asked.
For a moment he didn’t say anything, until he took a deep breath and uttered the words that punched her in the stomach:
"I’m sorry, but I think we should separate.”
At that moment she found it suddenly hard to breath as she forced the words to come out, “but...but..why?”
“I’m sorry,” he said, “but I just don’t think I’m in love with you anymore.” The words cut her like a knife as a sense of both fear and numbness engulfed her.Desperately she wanted to talk with him yet he said he had to leave and that they would discuss it later, but later never came that day.
Tyler never offered her a reason except to say that something was missing and he couldn’t stay with her any longer. In the coming days her mind raced from thoughts of fear to anger and then back to fear as the questions kept racing through her mind...
Was he having an affair?
What had she done wrong that this was happening to her?
If she could just understand, then she could fix it.
But the understanding she wanted never came as she went from begging him to stay to accepting the cold reality that he would never return.
After 3 months she felt that she was going to drown in grief if she didn’t talk with someone so a friend referred her to me.
After a few minutes sitting across from me she paused, looked me in the eye and ask, “Bob, who’s going to want a 41 year old divorced woman with 3 small children?” After losing the man who had promised to love her forever, I understood her doubts and fears.
Fast Forward 8 Months and You Wouldn’t Recognize This Same Woman
One afternoon she went to see her attorney and entered the elevator to his 14th floor office. When she got in she pushed the button for her floor and noticed a man who was busy talking to someone on his cellphone. As the elevator began it’s ascent, he stopped his call and glanced at her, then looked away.
She felt a nervous twinge then not a moment later she was shocked when he said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t normally do this. I don’t know if I’ll ever see you again so I wanted to ask you if I could call you sometime.” As the elevator came to her floor she just knew the look of complete shock was draped all over her face, but somehow she managed to say, “Oh, thank you but I’m afraid I’ve got to go.”
She tried to dismiss her experience as something random, until 2 weeks later at a friend’s dinner party. She had reluctantly agreed to go and didn’t feel especially social, yet that evening 2 men were captivated by her every word. The attention was almost overwhelming for her as each ask her when they would see her again. No longer was she broken and despondent, and in the coming weeks she had men calling her constantly and begging her to spend time with her. The doubts that haunted her just a few months ago now seemed almost silly.
So what happened that made this 41 year old single mother of 3 go from being abandoned to suddenly sought after by over a dozen men?
Everything began to change for her once she learned this secret – the hard way:
What men tell you they want and what they actually want are often entirely two different things.
As a Woman it is Critical That You Understand a Man’s Emotional Needs More Than He Does or Else He’ll Pull You into What I Call the “Giving Pit.”
This is the unconscious and destructive urge within a man that is only happy when you’re doing something to please him. It is as dangerous as a Vampire that drains the very life out of a helpless young woman. And here’s the big trap. He will EVEN say this is what he wants. But don’t listen and don’t give in!
You must never fall into this pit.
You know, where you give into what he wants because you think it will make him happy. That it will keep him devoted to you.
That it will make him love you.
But here’s what’s tragic about this, as logical as that sounds, giving too much to a man doesn’t make him love you, it will make him despise you. Even though that’s often exactly what a man tells you he wants!
This is why I’m going to share with you something that is counter intuitive to everything even men tell you they want in a woman.
Because if you let him keep pulling you down that path to the “Giving Pit” you’re actually increasing the chance that he might leave you.
You see, this path is based on 3 common , but deadly myths that I need to expose right now:
Myth 1
You Must Be Accommodating So that He’ll Think Your Easy Going and Fun…
But that doesn’t work because it actually trains him to think you’re willing to do whatever he wants. And what makes this so bad is that he’ll just assume all you care about is his needs, his happiness with nothing left for you.
Kind of like you’re his mother... doting on him... caring only about his needs... with your sole purpose focused on making sure he’s happy.
Myth 2
You’ve Been Told to Never Get Angry with a Man Because it’s Such a Turn Off….
But the truth is that never getting angry with a man actually makes him get bored with you. The reason is this: Men live by this motto – “If you can’t handle me when I’m rude or disrespectful, then you’re too weak for me to ever trust you when I’m scared.”
Myth 3
And the Worst Thing You’ve Been Told: The More You Give to a Man the Deeper He’ll Love You.I’m sorry to tell you but doing that will only lead to my deepest fear for you…that he’ll take you for granted by:
- Only calling you when he’s in the mood.
- Having his desire for you go hot and cold, for no apparent reason.
- Expecting you to be positive and upbeat…all the time.
She didn’t especially dress “girly” and wasn’t overly flirtatious. In fact she didn’t even know how she did it and certainly didn’t “try” and attract men.
But she had what I call "The Campfire Effect".
That effortless quality to glow and charm a man without even trying. But she had what I call "The Campfire Effect".
- Without have to resort to weird games or skin tight clothes.
- Without having to give into a man’s demands just to please him.
- Without having to worry about saying the wrong thing.
Her looks are never described as stunning or breath taking like Helen of Troy, but what she possessed was an ability to charm men. She had a quality that was so powerful, that men were willing to go to war for her, if that’s what she desired.
That is the power of “The Campfire Effect”
This effect makes a man not only notice you, but feel an irresistible desire to be close to you.
3 Quick Tips you can use right now:
1. Create Tension
This effect makes a man not only notice you, but feel an irresistible desire to be close to you.
2. Never Argue
Never argue with a man, but not for the reason you think. The problem with arguing is that it’s not POWERFUL enough. When you’re upset with him you want him to not only understand you, but FEEL why you’re upset and I can show you how.
3. Give Less Than You Receive
Always give back less to a man that you receive. For men the prize isn’t how much you give, it’s being able to make you happy. When you try and give as much as he does then you’re innocently acting like a man.If you’re not good at receiving, then you’ll actually teach a man to stop giving to you.
It’s called “The Woman Men Adore"
Whether you’re single or married, you’ll soon notice how men begin to look at you longingly and listen to your every word. All without having to play those silly relationship games that make you feel like you’re in high school.
Instead, You Just Need to Follow Bob Grant's Proven Process in 5 Easy Modules.
Instead, You Just Need to Follow Bob Grant's Proven Process in 5 Easy Modules.
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