Get Your Boyfriend Back - Could This Be His Problem?

If you are hoping to get your boyfriend back you might feel that you have a long road ahead of you. 

Since the breakup your boyfriend might not be as friendly as he used to be and it's almost as if he has completely shut you out of his life. 

This can be quite painful but with a little understanding of what's going on inside his head it can be quite easy to get your boyfriend back and do it in the shortest amount of time.

It could be that your breakup with your boyfriend came out of nowhere or maybe you noticed that things were bad for a while before the breakup. 

Maybe it was on incident that blew up into a huge argument or maybe that argument was the straw that broke the camel's back.

Either way, you find yourself on the outside of your boyfriend's life looking in wondering how can you get him back?

Understanding why he is acting this way and how you can use this information to your advantage can mean the difference between success and failure in getting your boyfriend back.

Communication

Any expert will tell you that success in any relationship comes down to effective communication. Without really good communication between you and your boyfriend there really is no relationship at all. 

Chances are a breakdown in communication is what led to your breakup with your boyfriend in the first place. 

A few misunderstandings or taking your comments or actions out of context can destroy even the most solid relationship and your relationship with your boyfriend is a perfect example.

Can you remember what actually led to your breakup? Did he take something out of context or did you do something not meaning to hurt him but he took it to heart?

If this is true then you probably know by now that no amount of apologizing or trying to make things right is going to change his perception of events in him mind.

Did you know that it is actually possible for a guy to even hear the wrong words if he has a thought in his head of what your intentions are. 

That's right... he can actually hear the wrong words and this is why therapists often tell you to ask the other person to repeat back to you what you said when you are in an argument.

Keep all of this in mind as you work to get your boyfriend back and also in the future if you ever get in an argument with him again. It's actually pretty frightening what a guy's mind can do in an emotionally charge situation.

Stubbornness 

There is no doubt that guys are stubborn and your boyfriend is no exception to this rule. Often once a guy makes up his mind to break up with a girl it is almost impossible to convince him that he has made a mistake. 

This is why guys never ask for directions when they are lost because they feel that they haven't really made a mistake. To admit that he is lost or made a mistake by breaking up with you would be akin to admitting defeat or that he was wrong. Guys don't like to admit when they are wrong but you probably already knew that, didn't you?

Your boyfriend's stubbornness is the reason why trying to talk through things or trying to convince him to get back together will never work. 

You are only wasting your time and pushing your boyfriend further away by trying to get him back using these methods. 

I know that it might seem like the right thing to do but nothing will drive a guy further away after a breakup than wanting to talk about the breakup.

In his mind he has made his decision and he doesn't think that he will ever change his mind. He is like a horse with blinders on. He is closed off to any other possibility other than being broken up with you right now.

Focus 

This brings us to your boyfriend's ability to focus on one thing. As you know, guys are terrible at multi-tasking and they lack the ability that women have to do multiple things at one time. 

A guy is able to focus on one thing at a time with laser beam precision and any other distractions are non existent. This is why a guy really won't hear you when he is watching tv or when he is driving. The are almost totally focused on the task at hand.

How this works into your ability to get your boyfriend back is that right now he is focused on the breakup. He is focused on what happened and his decision to break up with you.

He might be focusing on your desire to get back together which is like trying to talk to him while he's watching a football game. He is focused on the football game and everything coming out of your mouth either isn't heard or is an annoyance and distraction from breaking up with you.

Once you stop wanting to discuss the breakup or the possibility of getting back together all the pressure is off of you ex. The game is over and he has won. 

You aren't challenging him by pointing out that he made a mistake and that if the two of you had communicated better that he might see that this was all just a misunderstanding or if nothing else a mistake on your part that he should forgive you for. 

Once you drop the ball and the game is over he won't focus on the breakup any longer and he will need to shift his focus to something else. This is where your plan to get your boyfriend back comes in.

By being that bright, sparkly object that he can focus on in a positive way you can ensure that you will be able to get your boyfriend back in the shortest amount of time. It really isn't all that difficult. 

The difficult part for most women is in letting their boyfriend have his way and at least appearing to stop fighting to get their boyfriend back. 

But once they realize that fighting for their boyfriend is actually counterproductive and why it's important to stop talking about the breakup, most women find it easy to get their boyfriend back.

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