How to Decide You Are Ready For a New Relationship

Your last relationship has ended, but are you quite ready to move on yet?

Being with someone, is a better way to live than being alone, but do you know how to decide you are ready for a relationship.

If you go back into a relationship to quickly, any baggage that you are carrying is going to multiply, and could wreck your chances of finding that special someone.

If you have had problems in your previous relationships, then you have to ask yourself if you are emotionally strong enough for a new relationship.

As you will be aware, when you are in a relationship, you open yourself up to them, you make yourself vulnerable.

If you try to start dating again whilst emotionally fragile, you could find yourself being targeted by an abuser, probably emotional rather than physical.

What went wrong with your previous relationship, or relationships.

Have you experienced difficulties that you were not able to get closure with. If you have problems, you have to be able to deal with them otherwise they will eat away at you, and you will never get rid of them. 

If you are taking unresolved baggage into a new relationship then it will affect how you perceive your relationship, and in how you interact with your partner, it can destroy your relationship.

It is possible to go from relationship to relationship, and each time having you issues become more complicated, and more difficult to resolve.

You have to be able to identify what went wrong, so that the same thing does not happen again. If you are ready for a new relationship then you have to, have dealt with your past.

It is unlikely that your ex can be wholly responsible for your relationship breakdown, so take responsibility for your actions and admit your mistakes. 

You can either accept your mistakes and move on, or you can spend your life making excuses and never able to move forward.

If you have just come out of a relationship or a divorce, then take a time out so that you can work through the emotional rollercoaster that you are on.

When your mind is in a state of flux you are not capable of making decisions that could have a long-term consequences for you. 

Give yourself some time, but remember, at some point you have to make the conscious decision that you want a life again.

Have previous experiences affected your belief in your judgement, self-confidence, your self-esteem, and your self-belief. 

Take a look at who you are and start to believe in yourself again. If you have anything about you that could be changed, then do it, but don't lose the core of who you are. 

Things might have gone wrong in previous relationships but that does not mean that your next one will lead to, and they lived happily ever after.

If you need to, start building yourself a life. Find and pursue new hobbies and interests, it will make you more of an interesting person, and it will give you the chance to meets new people, make new friends, and who knows...

Do you know who you're looking for, do you know what you want from your next relationship, do you have realistic expectations or do you expect it to be like a movie? 

In order to decide if you are ready for a relationship, you need to have some idea of what you want for your future, if you do not then you could end up drifting from one partner to the next.

So, how to decide you are ready for a new relationship?

Does your ex no longer have a place in your thoughts?

Do you no longer think about them as often as you did?

Have you managed to get over the hurt and anger caused by your split, and for your own peace of mind, are you able to forgive your ex for their actions?

Have your friends stopped running away from you because you no longer go on, and on, and on about your ex?

Have you given yourself time to get over your hurt as going on a rebound date could hurt you even more?

Do you know what you're looking for in a relationship, and are you able to give it the commitment that it needs?

Are you ready to build the best possible relationship that you can?

If you answered you to everything, then you are ready for a new relationship.

Only you can decide that you are ready for a new relationship. Don't try to build a relationship with the first person that you meet, take the time to find someone who is right for you. 

Leave the past in the past, it's happened, there is nothing that you can do to change it, you can just learn from any mistakes.

Look to the future, whoever you next meet gives you a chance for a new beginning, take that chance and make the most of it, and I hope that it goes well for you.

When I first started writing about relationships blog and examine all aspects of relationships. I am trying to cover all aspects (or as much as possible) of marriage and relationships. I hope that you will find something on one of my sites that will be of help to you.