Advice  from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] “I just can’t give anymore, James,” she told me. “I don’t know what to do.” Marissa had come to me with a request. She wanted to get married. She and her guy had been together for eight years. They had two kids together. Marissa was in her forties, and she felt that it was time for her kids to see their mom and dad married. But the more she tried to push her partner on the subject, the more he pushed back on her. “It makes things worse if I talk about it,” she told me. “He says that I don’t appreciate what we have together. But I do! I just think it will be better for our kids.” “And better for you?” I asked. “Of course.” Marissa had been pouring her energy into making their family life perfect. She believed that if she showed him how devoted she was to him and their life together, he would wake up to the idea that he never wanted to lose her. Unfortunately, it wasn’t working. She was giving and giving and giving… And nothing ha...

Let's face it, men can be secretive and this is no secret. So when it comes to what they desire, rather than having them avoid you once again, we've gone ahead and clarified your questions of what a man secretly wants. Passion This one is not really a secret. Everyone knows that men like passion in a relationship, but what you may not know is that they don't always want to be the one to start it.  What people forget is that it isn't just about sex. It's about feeling desired and wanted. This is something that he may be longing for deep inside. Adoration It is in the heart of everybody to want to be adored, and valued for who they are. Due to their nature, men need respect more in a relationship to make it last.  In ways of how to show him respect, giving admiration is a good tip. Every now and then, you should show him how much you admire him. It will be showing him on a level that he wants and really needs. This will also make him feel special. Good humor Growing u...

Advice from Relationship Coach Amy Waterman[1]   You know the Wall. That’s when a man slams the door on you emotionally and acts like this relationship doesn’t even matter to him. He acts like you’re at fault for everything going wrong in his life. He gets verbally aggressive with you. He stops playing nice. It’s like he’s activated self-destruct mode, and he doesn’t care what goes down with it. Why do men do this? Don’t they realize they’re destroying their relationships? Don’t they even care? To understand what’s going through his head, you’ve got to stop seeing this situation from your perspective as a woman and start seeing it through the perspective of the Man Code. Men play by different rules in relationships than women, and you need to know what those are. The Man Code The first thing you need to know is feelings matter to you in a different way than they matter to him. Although boys are born just as emotional as girls—some research even indicates that boys may be MORE emoti...

How would it feel to you if a man said… “I didn’t know what true love was until I met you.” “You are absolutely perfect to me.” “I can’t live without you.” “You are my dream come true.” It would feel wonderful, wouldn’t it? It would feel like a fairytale, or a scene from a romantic movie. Now flip your roles. Imagine that you are the one saying those things to him. Do you think he’ll respond the same way? Will those words of romance sink into his heart and make him love you even more? For some men, the answer is yes. For other men, the answer is no. Some men might even find those words so off-putting that they’ll pull away. They’ll close down. They may even break off the relationship. Why?? What could be so wrong with expressing your heart in such a beautiful way? To understand the answer to that question, you have to understand something about men… Love is Serious Business A lot of men take a practical approach to love. They recognize that loving someone includes obligations, expectat...

Article from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] Carla found the romantic hero of her dreams. He was dark and brooding. He would show up unexpectedly and sweep her away on a surprise date, not telling her where they were going until they got there. Zachary had a quick temper, which Carla didn’t like, but he was also quick to defend her. One time, they were out dancing when a man bumped into Carla and said something rude. Zachary got in the man’s face and would have started something if Carla hadn’t pulled him away. Carla knew she was good for Zachary. She kept him on an even keel. She looked after him. Was their relationship made in heaven? Long-Term vs. Short-Term Potential The traits that appeal to us when dating don’t necessarily guarantee happily-ever-after. We feel intensely attracted to dates who are exciting and spontaneous. That emotional intensity pushes us to fall fast. But long-term relationships don’t run on emotional intensity. Passionate flames cool down into companio...