What Men Secretly Desire

Let's face it, men can be secretive and this is no secret. So when it comes to what they desire, rather than having them avoid you once again, we've gone ahead and clarified your questions of what a man secretly wants.

Passion
This one is not really a secret. Everyone knows that men like passion in a relationship, but what you may not know is that they don't always want to be the one to start it. 

What people forget is that it isn't just about sex. It's about feeling desired and wanted. This is something that he may be longing for deep inside.

Adoration
It is in the heart of everybody to want to be adored, and valued for who they are.
Due to their nature, men need respect more in a relationship to make it last. 

In ways of how to show him respect, giving admiration is a good tip. Every now and then, you should show him how much you admire him. It will be showing him on a level that he wants and really needs. This will also make him feel special.

Good humor

Growing up, men have always been a little silly. A little playful, with a childlike sense of humor. 

They believe that women don't want to see that side, so they'll usually only act that way around the guys. Believe it or not, being just as playful as him can be a turn on, as it can make him feel like he can act his true self around you. 

Not only that, but it can help him unwind from the stress of whatever he's facing, as you help let him know that life isn't just about work and stress.

More afraid of rejection
It's only assumed that because they aren't as expressive, men don't feel as much as women do. As a result people can most of the time overlook how they may be feeling. 

The reality is that men may be more afraid of being rejected than they let people know. Men do well in hiding this behind; a tough act, wealth, muscles, over-confidence, or even sex.

Accepted for who they are
Men desire to be accepted. Whether you're informed of it or not, men have to put on a show a lot. When it comes to the way he behaves around his friends, he feels he needs to act masculine. 

When it comes to dating, he has to impress the ladies. When it comes to their; feelings, movies they watch, or hobbies they do, they can't be seen as weak and un-masculine.

All this time they have to put on a show. Men want to be accepted for who they are around their soul-mate. If you can make them feel accepted for who they are, they will begin to view you as a soul-mate.

Take it easy
When it comes to impressing their dates, at times they don't want to have to. 

They expect that women expect to be wined and dined, and this expectation can wear them out at times. They want to take it easy every now and then. This can mean eating take-out for dinner, or leaving the dishes for a day without washing them, or just not dressing up. 

In their easy going nature they desire their partners to be able to accept them and allow them to be lazy every now and then.

Express themselves safely
Where they may not want to express feelings, they may want to be able to do so with you safely. 

To know that they can cry and be able to confide in a woman not to tell others (even her girlfriends), and to accept him is something he wants. 

Men have a hard time communicating emotion around others because they relate those times of weakness to their identity more than women. 

This is why they are scared to do so. This means they have a bigger need to be accepted when they do.

Most of the time men not only have a fear of expressing themselves, but they also have a fear that other people will find out somehow. 

This is particularly true because they know that women can be very expressive, and don't share their same typical non-expressive attitude with others.

Sometimes they desire to be the one being pursued.
It's a common expectation that in the beginning stages of a relationship, the man is the one who should do the chasing. 

At times they desire to be the one being pursued. It's really about making them feel loved, and wanted. Poking in that area can actually stir up emotions that weren't there before.

To be loved and needed
Men and women are as different as cats and dogs right?

Sometimes we can forget that we have many similarities as well. Every man wants to be the hero, it was their childhood dream. It really makes him feel special, and cared for, especially if you go over the top and do it to the extremes.

It doesn't have to be constant... just often enough so that he doesn't think you forgot him. Try it... it'll make you feel good to. Fulfilling this secret want in his heart will cause him to step up and fulfill the desires he knows you have.

Discovering what men secretly desire may have been a mystery before, but is well worth the lesson. 

Understanding what they secretly desire will let you to reach them in a way they have never been touched before, making them view you as something special. Use it for your benefit.

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