You’ve met this guy on a dating app. He  seems  alright. You’ve enjoyed chatting with him.  He wants to meet up for a coffee. So you say yes. It’s during the day, so you don’t want to look like you’ve dressed up for him. But you still spend AGES getting ready. Your hair has to be just right. Your makeup has to be just right. You want to look like you # wokeuplikethis —which is to say, NOTHING like how you usually wake up. When you walk into the coffee shop, timing your entry down to the minute, your palms are damp from nerves. You can hear your own heart thudding. You look around. He’s not here yet. Should you order something and find a table, or wait for him?  You decide to wait.  One minute goes by.  Another. It’s been five minutes. Everyone is staring at you. Wondering why you’re standing there like an idiot. Embarrassed, you go ahead and place your order.  OF COURSE, while your back is turned, he walks in.  Great . So his first i...

Honesty. Intelligence. Humor. Great hair. Career success. There are many traits you want in a man. Well, according to a   new study , there’s one more you should add to your list: optimism. Why? Because optimistic people tend to be happier and healthier. Which rubs off on their partner. (That’s you!) Specifically, the research found that long-term couples with an optimistic partner are better able to fight cognitive decline. Not to mention related issues, such as dementia and Alzheimer’s. Who knew looking on the bright side could be so powerful? But it’s important to understand what researchers mean by “optimistic”.  You don’t want someone who just feels happy all the time. Or sees things through rose-colored glasses.  You want someone who takes action to make positive changes. Someone who not only sees the glass as half full, but actively works to fill it up the rest of the way. If you find that man,  hang on to him .

Amy Webb was failing at online dating. It’s not that she wasn’t a catch. She had been named in a shortlist of 5 women changing the world by Forbes. She had advised 3-star generals and the CEOs of some of the world’s largest companies. But maybe it wasn’t the best idea to cut and paste her résumé into her online dating profile. Now her profile wasn’t getting any hits. Maybe she was approaching this the wrong way. In her professional life, she was used to getting results. She used data to solve problems and predict the future. Why couldn’t she use the same skills to hack online dating? So she did the unthinkable: She created 10 fictional profiles and started dating from the other side… As a man. What You Don’t See Online I don’t know if you’ve ever seen an online dating site from a man’s perspective. If you register as a woman looking for a man, you don’t get to see the other women looking for love. You don’t know what they look like, how they present themselves, or how ...

It takes seven seconds to make a first impression.[i] You heard me right. Seven  seconds . We size up other people in a fraction of the time it takes to brush our teeth! And first impressions are powerful. They’re so powerful that they rarely change. Basically, you get one shot. Blow it, and you’re far less likely to make a connection. A failed first impression will end your chances with a guy before you’ve even had time to start a conversation. In seven seconds, we decide if the other person is someone we want to know better or someone we’d rather just forget. No pressure, right? Actually, it’s not as bad as it sounds. Nailing a first impression isn’t that hard. In fact, you only need one trick up your sleeve. There’s a whole science behind how we make first impressions. After more than a decade of research, psychologists have discovered that one characteristic influences first impressions more than any other. When two people meet, the first question they ask abo...

He’s pulling away. You can feel it. It’s not just that he’s not contacting you as often. It’s the way he communicates. Almost as if he’s irritated by you. As if it’s a big effort to pick up his phone and text you back.  It hurts. It hurts because you thought you had something special. You thought he felt it, too. He couldn’t wait to spend time with you. His texts made you smile. You know he was happy with you. So what changed? Don’t Push Him Away Even Further When someone you care about pulls away, all sorts of thoughts go through your mind. You think it’s something you did. It feels like he’s punishing you. You’re terrified he doesn’t love you anymore. Why do all men end up leaving you? Are you too broken to love? You can feel the panic building. You’ve got to do something to save your relationship. How can you bring him back? How can you make him act like he used to? It’s one of the most common dating dynamics: He pulls away , and you try to pull him back...

Jade came to me with a clear focus for what she wanted to work on. “I want to show my boyfriend that he can trust me,” she said. “He had a really toxic relationship with his ex, and now he says he’s scared of getting close to anyone else again. How can I help him get over his fears?” Jade was the kind of woman any man would feel thankful for. She radiated warmth, generosity, and dependability. She was determined to improve herself and make a wonderful life for the man she’d eventually marry. “Did anything happen to make him doubt you?” I asked. “No, not that I know of.” “What are you doing right now to help him overcome his fears from the past?” “Like, everything!” She threw her hands up in frustration. “I give him plenty of space. I don’t push him. I don’t ask much of him. But it’s not working. He says he needs more time.” It wasn’t the first time I’d heard a story like this. There are a lot of men who won’t get close to a woman because of their troubled past. For some,...

Do you know when a man is lying to you?  In fact, he probably lies to you quite a lot.  If you have ever had a great thing going with  the perfect man, when suddenly he cools things  down and stops calling... You need to watch this video from my friend Mirabelle: ==> The truth about why men stop calling   There is a simple reason why men do this, and once you know the secret it's going to change everything about the way you experience love. By knowing how to reach past his defenses and touch his heart deeply, he's going to see you as different to every girl he has ever known... And make him plead to be his forever.  It's not some scientific theory dreamed up by a PhD student. It comes from someone who had their heart broken and found out the truth...  And now she's sharing it with you.  Stop being the girl that always gets dumped  and never knows why.  Find out how to be the one ...