Some women flirt all the time. You can probably picture her in your mind’s eye.
Does that sound like someone you’d like to be?
Or is that quite simply NOT you?
Spotting a Flirt
We have this idea in our heads about what flirting is supposed to look like.
It’s supposed to be sensual. Teasing. Feminine.
It’s supposed to ramp up sexual tension. It’s supposed to make it clear to him that you’re interested in his advances.
But not everyone is a natural flirt.
For many of us, one-size-fits-all flirting advice just doesn’t feel right.
That wouldn’t come as news to Dr. Jeffrey Hall.
Dr. Hall is an assistant professor of communication at the University of Kansas. He’s published a number of peer-reviewed studies. But what he’s best known for is his discoveries about flirting. He found out that not all flirting looks the same.
There are 5 distinct flirting styles.
And not all of them are playful or seductive. You can be great at flirting while remaining sincere or polite.
Ready to find out your flirting style?
The 5 Flirting Styles
Dr. Hall uncovered these flirting styles while studying 5,000 eHarmony users and interviewing an additional 4,500 singles.
He then put a modified version of the quiz online to help people identify their own flirting style. (I’ll give you the link to the quiz at the end!)
Since then, over 60,000 people have taken the Flirting Styles Inventory.
Before I tell you what the flirting styles are, you need to know that more than one may describe you.
Most people change their flirting strategy for different occasions, but they gravitate towards one flirting style more than the others.
Here are the 5 flirting styles:
Playful flirt
The playful flirt flirts because it’s fun. She flirts with everyone. She knows that flirting makes people feel good. It makes her feel good, too! A little flattery makes people more likely to go out of their way for her.
Because the playful flirt enjoys flirting whether she’s interested in someone or not, she tends to create superficial relationships. She needs to invest more if she wants a serious relationship.
Traditional flirt
The traditional flirt flirts by the rules. Men are supposed to act one way, and women are supposed to act another. She would never dream of making the first move. Her job is to sit back and wait for a man to approach.
Because traditional flirts are constrained by gender roles, they can end up waiting forever for a man to step up. Men who are traditional flirts tend to hold back until they are sure a woman would be amenable to their advances. Traditional flirts tend to be reserved, less comfortable in social situations, and choosier about who they flirt with.
Sincere flirt
The sincere flirt values an emotional connection above all else. She wants to know as much as she can about the person she’s with. She’s direct, honest, and asks interesting questions. She shares revealing stories about herself to build intimacy.
Unfortunately, the sincere flirt is not always very good at creating sexual attraction or communicating romantic interest. Her flirting style can be mistaken for friendliness.
Polite flirt
The polite flirt is the most overlooked of all the flirting types. That’s because the polite flirt would never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. She’s well-mannered, she’s respectful, and she gives people space.
No wonder the polite flirt doesn’t do well on the singles scene. She prefers to get to know people slowly. But when she does develop a relationship with someone, it’s solid and long-lasting.
Can You Spot His Flirting Style?
Now that you understand the 5 flirting styles, your challenge is to spot the flirting style of the person you’re interested in.
A man who’s a physical flirt will most easily read physical cues.
A man who’s sincere will try to build romantic attraction through deep conversations.
A man who’s polite may be very interested in you but not want to tread on your toes.
Knowing his flirting style can help you read his interest more accurately.
Ready to take the flirting styles quiz for yourself? Take it here.
P.S. Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you were a master at flirting?
How different would men treat you if you knew all the subtle cues, all the perfect things to say at just the right times...
How confident would you feel talking to a guy you like if you had a cheat sheet of perfect texts to send him that would leave him hungry for your attention?
Or if you're in a relationship already, how much more romantic and attentive would your man be if you knew exactly how to bring out his playful, intimate side?
>>Discover The Words And Phrases To Capture And Keep A Man's Heart
She’s laughing, coy, twirling her hair around her fingers, smiling that mysterious smile.
She knows what to say to stroke man’s ego. Men act like boys around her.Does that sound like someone you’d like to be?
Or is that quite simply NOT you?
Spotting a Flirt
We have this idea in our heads about what flirting is supposed to look like.
It’s supposed to be sensual. Teasing. Feminine.
It’s supposed to ramp up sexual tension. It’s supposed to make it clear to him that you’re interested in his advances.
But not everyone is a natural flirt.
For many of us, one-size-fits-all flirting advice just doesn’t feel right.
That wouldn’t come as news to Dr. Jeffrey Hall.
Dr. Hall is an assistant professor of communication at the University of Kansas. He’s published a number of peer-reviewed studies. But what he’s best known for is his discoveries about flirting. He found out that not all flirting looks the same.
There are 5 distinct flirting styles.
And not all of them are playful or seductive. You can be great at flirting while remaining sincere or polite.
Ready to find out your flirting style?
The 5 Flirting Styles
Dr. Hall uncovered these flirting styles while studying 5,000 eHarmony users and interviewing an additional 4,500 singles.
He then put a modified version of the quiz online to help people identify their own flirting style. (I’ll give you the link to the quiz at the end!)
Since then, over 60,000 people have taken the Flirting Styles Inventory.
Before I tell you what the flirting styles are, you need to know that more than one may describe you.
Most people change their flirting strategy for different occasions, but they gravitate towards one flirting style more than the others.
Here are the 5 flirting styles:
Physical flirt
The physical flirt is the stereotypical flirt. Her flirting is sexually charged. She’s always finding excuses to touch the person she’s flirting with. She flips her hair, bats her eyelids, and moves her body suggestively.
Physical flirts appear confident and jump into relationships quickly. However, some people can be put off by the physical flirt, because she can come on too strong or appear shallow.
The physical flirt is the stereotypical flirt. Her flirting is sexually charged. She’s always finding excuses to touch the person she’s flirting with. She flips her hair, bats her eyelids, and moves her body suggestively.
Physical flirts appear confident and jump into relationships quickly. However, some people can be put off by the physical flirt, because she can come on too strong or appear shallow.
Playful flirt
The playful flirt flirts because it’s fun. She flirts with everyone. She knows that flirting makes people feel good. It makes her feel good, too! A little flattery makes people more likely to go out of their way for her.
Because the playful flirt enjoys flirting whether she’s interested in someone or not, she tends to create superficial relationships. She needs to invest more if she wants a serious relationship.
Traditional flirt
The traditional flirt flirts by the rules. Men are supposed to act one way, and women are supposed to act another. She would never dream of making the first move. Her job is to sit back and wait for a man to approach.
Because traditional flirts are constrained by gender roles, they can end up waiting forever for a man to step up. Men who are traditional flirts tend to hold back until they are sure a woman would be amenable to their advances. Traditional flirts tend to be reserved, less comfortable in social situations, and choosier about who they flirt with.
Sincere flirt
The sincere flirt values an emotional connection above all else. She wants to know as much as she can about the person she’s with. She’s direct, honest, and asks interesting questions. She shares revealing stories about herself to build intimacy.
Unfortunately, the sincere flirt is not always very good at creating sexual attraction or communicating romantic interest. Her flirting style can be mistaken for friendliness.
Polite flirt
The polite flirt is the most overlooked of all the flirting types. That’s because the polite flirt would never want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. She’s well-mannered, she’s respectful, and she gives people space.
No wonder the polite flirt doesn’t do well on the singles scene. She prefers to get to know people slowly. But when she does develop a relationship with someone, it’s solid and long-lasting.
Can You Spot His Flirting Style?
Now that you understand the 5 flirting styles, your challenge is to spot the flirting style of the person you’re interested in.
A man who’s a physical flirt will most easily read physical cues.
A man who’s sincere will try to build romantic attraction through deep conversations.
A man who’s polite may be very interested in you but not want to tread on your toes.
Knowing his flirting style can help you read his interest more accurately.
Ready to take the flirting styles quiz for yourself? Take it here.
P.S. Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you were a master at flirting?
How different would men treat you if you knew all the subtle cues, all the perfect things to say at just the right times...
How confident would you feel talking to a guy you like if you had a cheat sheet of perfect texts to send him that would leave him hungry for your attention?
Or if you're in a relationship already, how much more romantic and attentive would your man be if you knew exactly how to bring out his playful, intimate side?
>>Discover The Words And Phrases To Capture And Keep A Man's Heart
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