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I Can't Stop Thinking About Him!


A break up is such a miserable thing to go through, especially when you still have really strong feelings for him.

Almost immediately, you start asking yourself, "How do I get my ex boyfriend back?". 

It is possible. Anything is possible. I truly believe that is the case, however, getting back together may require a lot of work and patience on your side and you are probably not feeling overly patient at the moment.

The normal feelings after a break up are sadness, pain, and feelings of regret. 

You find yourself wondering if you could have done something differently to prevent the breakup, you can't listen to love songs without crying, and you lose interest in the things that used to excite you. 


Maybe you stormed out and regret having done so but he's moved on. Maybe he broke up with you and you never saw it coming. Either way, you go through a lot of self doubt and suffer a drop in your self esteem.

It does not really matter what the situation is, there are a number of things you can do to get a second chance.

How do I get my ex boyfriend back?

Five steps to get things back on track:

1. Regain your dignity 
If you have been haunting your ex, following his every move, talking to his friends or family or just generally invading his life, you are likely pushing him further away. Stop doing these things immediately.

2. Establish a position of maturity and acceptance
Once you have stopped the begging, crying, and pleading for a second chance, give some indication that you have accepted the breakup.

Either through a quick letter or email, you can let your ex know that you have come to grips with the separation and that you wish them well. 

It's amazing how many times this alone can make a guy reconsider the separation.

3. Have some fun 
Are you really going to let a guy rob you of the time you have in this world? 

Go out with your friends, read your favorite books, take up a new hobby, or start exercising to gain some control over your destiny.


Besides, if your boyfriend finds you are acting more like your old self, he's liable to remember why he loved you to begin with.

4. Initiate contact
Let enough time pass so that your ex really sees that you are no longer pining for him and then see if you can't find an opportunity to give them a quick call either for something of yours they still have or to get some information you left with them that you now need.

5. Arrange an encounter
You need an event or situation in which your ex can see you are your old self again. 

It helps if this is something fun that you both enjoy like going to a concert with a group of friends. If they see you acting like you used to, they may remember how good it felt to be with you.

Lots of women ask the question, "How do I get my ex boyfriend back?" Many of them miss out by not understanding the psychology of changing the perception the ex has as a result of the final break up. 

You stand a chance at turning things around if you find a sound strategy that guides you every step of the way.

Are you trying to win back your ex but not sure where to start? Try the  His Secret Obsession, a guide to help you get back together. 

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