Article from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] You stare at your phone… And a cold feeling settles into your gut. You re-read his text again. Is he mad at you for something? Is this supposed to be funny? Is he saying it’s over? As your thumbs hover over the keypad, your mind remains stubbornly blank. You have to reply… But what do you say? It’s Normal to Worry I often have clients bring their phones into a coaching session with me. They read their texts aloud, hoping I can shed some light on its meaning. They want my advice on how to reply. They’re afraid they might write the wrong thing and ruin everything. Texting, unlike speech, leaves a permanent record. Send a text that you haven’t thought through, and you can’t take it back. It’s there on his phone forever. Yet that doesn’t stop us from sending texts we later regret. We have arguments via text. We confess our feelings via text. We push a joke too far. And we’re left to mop up the mess our texts have made without being able ...

Article from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] You pick up your phone and see a text from a guy you really liked who ghosted you last year. Is it an apology? Nope. Is it an explanation? Nope. It’s a “hey” with a string of friendly emojis. What’s that supposed to mean? You pick up your phone and see a text from a guy you went out with last week. He didn’t seem all that interested, so you wrote it off as a loss. Except now he’s texting you, “Wanna netflix and chill?” Did you totally misread the situation? Texting is so  confusing. It’s one of the things my clients tell me they struggle with the most. What I tell them is that there’s a reason they’re struggling. Texting wasn’t designed for having conversations. Here’s Why You’re Struggling You’ve probably heard it said that over 90% of communication is nonverbal. This claim comes from body language researcher Albert Mehrabian, who found that we understand a person’s meaning through interpreting: Their nonverbal cues (55%), Thei...

When men are dating, they have secret questions just like the ones you ask yourself.  They may not be exactly the same questions but they definitely represent their opinions and views.  The secret question men ask before they commit is the "if" question while women usually ask the "where" question. A man is usually in deep thought to decide if he will start a serious relationship with you or if you are the best person who can be with him for the rest of his life.  He decides whether or not he can see himself tied and starting a family with you even if there has been months of physical involvement. Women on the other hand would like to know where the relationship will end up. Usually, you will ask yourself when he will commit himself to you after what you have been through.  You sometimes wonder when is the time that he is going to make up his mind and when he will finally propose or ask you for marriage.  You should therefore know the secret question men ask be...

You've met. You get along. You're interested.  He's interested. So far we're on a roll.  Congrats! Now he's asking you for a date. You accept. How to keep him coming back for more dates?  Let's look at your first date with him before discussing more dates. Don't get ahead of yourself. Be a good and considerate first date.  How? When he opens the door for you to get in on the passenger side, closes the door and walks around to the driver's side, lean over and make sure the car lock is up.  When you get to the restaurant, tell him, as you are walking in, that you know you're going to have a good time with him tonight. You've always wanted to eat at this establishment. Yes, of course you can't say this if you're dining at Burger King or another fast food place. If it's not fast food, even if it is a chain place, compliment him on his choice.  The secret to a man's happiness is through his stomach. He's going to take you to an eat...

Advice  from  dating coach  James Bauer [1] “I just can’t give anymore, James,” she told me. “I don’t know what to do.” Marissa had come to me with a request. She wanted to get married. She and her guy had been together for eight years. They had two kids together. Marissa was in her forties, and she felt that it was time for her kids to see their mom and dad married. But the more she tried to push her partner on the subject, the more he pushed back on her. “It makes things worse if I talk about it,” she told me. “He says that I don’t appreciate what we have together. But I do! I just think it will be better for our kids.” “And better for you?” I asked. “Of course.” Marissa had been pouring her energy into making their family life perfect. She believed that if she showed him how devoted she was to him and their life together, he would wake up to the idea that he never wanted to lose her. Unfortunately, it wasn’t working. She was giving and giving and giving… And nothing ha...

Let's face it, men can be secretive and this is no secret. So when it comes to what they desire, rather than having them avoid you once again, we've gone ahead and clarified your questions of what a man secretly wants. Passion This one is not really a secret. Everyone knows that men like passion in a relationship, but what you may not know is that they don't always want to be the one to start it.  What people forget is that it isn't just about sex. It's about feeling desired and wanted. This is something that he may be longing for deep inside. Adoration It is in the heart of everybody to want to be adored, and valued for who they are. Due to their nature, men need respect more in a relationship to make it last.  In ways of how to show him respect, giving admiration is a good tip. Every now and then, you should show him how much you admire him. It will be showing him on a level that he wants and really needs. This will also make him feel special. Good humor Growing u...